SHARING IS CARING II

Welcome back to Sharing is Caring take dos!  As you saw in the last post, Sharing is Caring features what I'm loving right this second. I hope you enjoy these items, tunes and people as much as I do!

TO WEAR...

 

My mom, sister and I have been major fans of CHANEL's Rouge Allure Double Intensité Lip Colors (stains) for as long as I can remember. The only problem with them is that CHANEL discontinues the most bomb colors as soon as we become hooked on them! Unless you're my mom and you buy a million of the same color... just in case they discontinue it.

I was perusing the colors of the double tube yesterday when I saw these magical MATTE Ink colors!  Definitely on my list of lips-to-try.  

TO LIVE BY...

 
WISDOM is knowing we are all One.
LOVE is what it feels like and Compassion
is what it acts like.
— Ethan Walker III
 

This quote took my breath away. Wisdom: the great understanding that our lives, exteriors and circumstances may be different but as humans, as souls, as individual units of The Divine and creatures made in God's image, We Are One. Recognizing this in the simplest form, I'm overcome with love. For myself, surprisingly. For nature, for space, for strangers, for animals. When you hold this love of humanity -- this love that is essentially "what is in me, is in you" -- in your heart, the only reaction is compassion. Suffering, like love, is universal. And it can only be diminished with love and compassion. 

TO LISTEN TO...

 
 

A unique blend of moderna, hip-hop and old school. Catch me jamming out to songs like these at The Forum Athletic Club, Buckhead.  
MON + TUES @ 6A and
WEDNESDAY @ 6P

TO FOLLOW...

KERRY HAYS ART

The following account is one of my favorites to follow and favorites to share with my clients.  Looking at my friend Kerry Hays' art elicits something poignant, pensive and peaceful in me. I am confident that her oil on canvas paintings will conjure similar sentiments for you.  Working together, Kerry and I have collaborated on design schemes for specific spaces within my clients' homes.  Follow Kerry on Instagram at @kerryhaysart and let know if you are in need of an installment or special gift!

 
Posted on May 9, 2017 .

BLUMERA TRUNK SHOW

 
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"Traveling the globe, Mehera Blum of Blumera, delves deep into the culture and innate skills of foreign lands to create one-of-a-kind hand-sculpted pieces.

Beyond the design, incredible handcraft, vibrant colors, and exotic materials, clients often remark that there is an unusual, almost intangible, essence that is Blumera’s signature mark." - blumera.com

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Los Angeles Celebrity designer Mehera Blum will be displaying her handbags, jewelry,
clothing and shoes
in Buckhead!

TRUNK SHOW HOURS
SATURDAY, MAY 20TH 9A - 2P
SUNDAY, MAY 21ST 11A - 4PM

Complete the form below to RSVP and receive the trunk show address.

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Posted on April 27, 2017 .

LOVE YOU, MOM

I love Mother's Day.  In the year that I was born (on a Saturday), Mother's Day fell on the following day, May, 8th. The years that I've been able to be with my mom for my birthday and then get to celebrate her shortly after after my favorite. Also, my mom is probably my favorite person that there ever was. If you've meet her, you understand. Here are three easy-peezy gifts for you to snag for your own special Mama... 

STELLA & DOT

Encourage Mom to lighten her load (and handbag) by gifting a slim cross body or clutch!

COVET HIGHLINE BAG $149

COVET HIGHLINE BAG $149

CITY SLIM CLUTCH $49

CITY SLIM CLUTCH $49

GIFT OF STYLE

NOT because you're embarrassed by your mother... but because you love her!

EMAIL ME AT LILLIANGRAYCHARLES@GMAIL.COM

EMAIL ME AT LILLIANGRAYCHARLES@GMAIL.COM

A WORKSHOP WITH MY MOTHER,
CREATOR OF SOUTH GATE DESIGN

WORKSHOPS AVAILABLE YEAR ROUND. CHECK WEBSITE FOR DATES AND LOCATIONS.

WORKSHOPS AVAILABLE YEAR ROUND. CHECK WEBSITE FOR DATES AND LOCATIONS.

 

Enjoy celebrating the most special woman in your life! 

Posted on April 25, 2017 .

SHARING IS CARING

Ever heard of a BHAG? It's an acronym I learned during my time at lululemon: Big Hairy Audacious Goal. And I have a new one! I want to share a few of my favorite things, words and what's playing (download Spotify & Soundcloud) in my car and at the gym. Some of the items I share will be $$$$ and some will be no-brainer $7 mascara that you will be hooked on. If you don't like what you see today, check back next week for the following round up. Short, sweet, hopefully helpful... because Sharing is Caring.

Posted on April 25, 2017 .

ZOOM Con, Confidence & Teens

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So I'm sitting here on my laptop on a Friday night thinking the same thoughts I always think before I have to give a presentation: What... do I... have... to offer?  Like really.  Self-doubt. Insecurity. Inadequacy. I'm flooded with all of it.  Worried that the audience will think that my work is trivial (I mean, I do shop and play with clothes for a living), worried that as a white, cisgendered, college-educated, middle-class, slim/muscular woman... maybe I'm totally un-relatable. Maybe I have nothing to offer at all. Maybe my life looks too rosey, maybe my hardships don't matter or "count." 

But they do. Of course they do. All of our experiences COUNT. Because they're OURS. Our experiences are what color our world. I absolutely struggle. I struggle with things that people would never imagine that I struggle with; "but you seem so confident!" people say.  I am. But I haven't always been confident and I don't stay super pumped up on myself 24/7.  Ha, it's too hard. I haven't always loved myself, my body, my choices, my brain, my mistakes.

And that's relatable.

We all have "stuff," we all struggle, we all wish things to be different from time to time. We all compare ourselves. We all long for something slightly different from our reality at one point or another. 

So. Sigh. Tomorrow I get to speak to a group of pre-teens and teens and educators and parents. About... self-confidence. And style, of course. And how loving yourself can make all the difference. And I want everything I say to be true. I want to tell these girls that if they are equipped with self-confidence and a solid sense of Self than they are unbreakable and unbeatable. But that's just not the case. None of us are UNBREAKABLE. There will be days -- and probably already have been days -- when these girls will feel so beaten down that they will want to crawl, not walk or jump or march or run. And what do I say about Self-confidence, then? How does it help then? 

What I've learned over the years is this: know your personal truth. Establish your personal truth on your own, for yourself. You get to decide what you think of you. Not everyone will accept you. You will be told "no" and "I don't like you" and even horrible, terrible things about your outward appearance. It's going to HURT! The world has always been this way and may never change. I am daily reminded that I am not "for everyone" or liked by all. But it is in these moments of pain that I hold onto my truths:  

  • I was made to give and receive love. Fact.
  • My beauty is intrinsic... it has everything to do with the way I connect with and serve others and pretty much nothing to do with how I look. My physical appearance is a bonus. The way my body is shaped is a bonus. The way I dress is a bonus. Only the last one is a choice (and thank goodness because I sure do love to shop.) 
  • What I value in life, in relationships and in myself is different from what others value. That's okay.  That's okay for them. And for me. But my values are not flexible.

Do I get carried away in comparison? Yep. Do I ever feel rejected? Even worthless?  Sure do.

And then I remember my list of truths

My purpose. My beauty. My values.

The more we self-explore, the more we find what makes us work and tick and LOVE... the more unshakable we truly are. Getting rattled, shaken up and beaten down is inevitable. But rallying around our truths is a surefire way to rise. 

If your current truths are mean and ugly (about yourself and/or others), fake some nice stuff. Fake a nice list of truths. And then stick to those. The negative "truths" don't help. They're not useful. They get you no where (I ABSOLUTELY PROMISE. I know because I was once married to ALLLL the negatives. For real.) Commit to the good. Watch how your mind and outlook shifts. 

Posted on March 24, 2017 .